I was 28, nearly ten years into a military career working as an aircraft technician in the Royal Canadian Air Force. I no longer found my job challenging in the way it once had, dissatisfied with the misogynistic attitude of my new unit that had confined me to an office well before my time and I had begun to dread going to work with a fury that was nearing desperation. …

As long as we are a culture saturated in capitalism which taints everything it touches, there is going to be an overabundance of people in the sex industry who would be better off doing anything but.

The idea that intimacy is non-commodifiable is a viewpoint that pervades anti-sex-work and white feminist thinking, but I argue that there are many professions that may be described as intimate, and their commodification is never brought into question.

Many believe that teaching is a noble profession, so teachers should do their jobs for love of their profession and the good of their students, not…

Yup, you’re definitely not contributing to your son’s issues by making sure he knows that no matter what he does, you will never see his choices as valid and he will never be good enough. Lucky for you, you’ve got his siblings who mirror you in every responsible way.!

What the crap did I just read?

Super not okay to catfish men so you can make fun of them (for profit, no less!)

Grow up.

This is the kind of thing that fuels the hatred that many men have for women. Granted, it’s usually done by black hatters masquerading as hot women to trick lonely, desperate men into signing up for/upgrading their dating site memberships, but guess what? That’s not what the men who are being lead on see.

They see that they spent a bunch of money signing up for a website and got basically nothing in return…

As sex workers we do a lot of the same emotional and physical labour - listening to male problems, fawning over them, providing sexual services - that our current society has deemed unworthy of acknowledgement or compensation.

Yet we are compensated, sometimes greatly.

I think that this is one of the many reasons that so many people insist on keeping us as illegitimate as possible.

Because if sex work is acknowledged and accepted as real work, that means all of the rest of the unpaid labour expected of women might also be real work and worth of acknowledgment. …

a bad girl on porn

a bad girl on porn

We know that mainstream pornography, based on straight male fantasies, is not an accurate representation of sex in real life. Girl-girl porn is not lesbian porn. Women experiencing pleasure without a penis involved intimidates men, and the actors themselves are usually straight. It is unfortunate that women are represented as delicate lotus flowers, requiring soft lighting and satin sheets and soothing flute music to undress with each other.

This creates a generally accepted, widely spread narrative that tells us what roles we are supposed to play; that people involved in sexual activity who are not…

Some see sex work not as a simple commercial transaction, but as paid abuse, occurring in a world where women are less respected and less valued than their male counterparts. The exchange of sex “for consideration” somehow reduces every woman into a commodity, to nothing more than a collection of parts to be used and then discarded, our value measured by our fuckability and nothing more.

My value does not depend on my having sex for money. In the same way, when I have sex for money, it does not change, or diminish my worth.

Sex workers sell our time…

Racism, Misogyny & Rape Culture

Rape culture is a sociological concept for a setting in which rape is pervasive and normalized due to societal attitudes about gender and sexuality. Behaviours commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, slut-shaming, sexual objectification, trivializing rape, denial of widespread rape, refusing to acknowledge the harm caused by some forms of sexual violence, or some combination of these.

The notion of rape culture has been used to describe and explain behavior within social groups, including prison rape and in conflict areas where war rape is used as psychological warfare. …

Cherry Soda, Independent Escort. Pro/Am Porn Star. Air Force Veteran. All-around bad girl.

Written Dec 13

Where there is a great deal of focus being put of the negative aspects which the porn industry, I feel like there should be at least a bit of a positive counterbalance presented,, as I don’t necessarily agree with much of what has been said in the other answers to this question.

This question is a very common one, which indicates to me that it is a topic which weighs heavily on the minds of many. I hope no one minds if I take…

Cherry Soda, Independent Escort. Pro/Am Porn Star. Air Force Veteran. All-around bad girl.

There are actually a number of different avenues which an independent sex worker can use to promote both herself and her services. Only about ten years ago, most sex workers were dependent on advertising in the ‘Adult Services’ section of their local newspaper classifieds.

This was quite a bit more expensive than today’s many online advertising options. It was also very inconvenient for any sex worker who had insufficient credit to obtain a credit card, as they had to physically go into the newspaper’s sales office to…

Cherry Soda

Explorer. Filmmaker. Techno-geek. Sex Goddess. Crazy Cat Lady. Whore. Saviour of Mankind.

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